Friday the 13th in Paris Nov 2015

I slept until 3pm on the day of the attack, I just couldn’t get out of bed. I did a few simple errands in my neighborhood, the famously quiet 15th arrondissement, before getting ready for the theater. Even his yelling was quiet, several cars down on the metro a man holding a grey plastic bag was yelling in a language I couldn’t understand. Through the open train cars I could see his anger, we all could, but his voice mixed with the distance and ambient noise was a whisper in my ears. Several people turned their heads and a few stood up, no one did anything but watch until he left. He continued yelling and gesturing with his grey plastic bag as he made his way down the platform. I shared a look with another passenger, a gesture, a shrug, a universal, “yeah what’s his problem?”.

A shiver of awareness that something could go awry.

I made it just in time to meet my dear friend Valerie at La Comedia for the musical Mistinguett. A 1920s themed song and dance spectacular based on the true story of Mistinguett. Mistinguett a Parisian badass who began her career singing ballads while selling blossoms. She became the most popular French entertainer of her time and highest paid female entertainer in the world, her legs were insured for 500,000 francs in 1919. The spectacle was spectacular indeed, complete with showgirls in pink feather headdresses, high-kicking men in pink suits carrying Mistinguett down a silver staircase baring the glowing emblem of the Eiffel tower. Just before the finale the performers got word that something had happened, a shooting. After the feathers, the solos, the three curtain calls and more, Mistinguett came out from behind the red curtain to let us know there’d been some trouble outside. We were free to leave, but they had closed the metal doors and advised us to stay. Information began pouring in through devices, we were two subway stops from the Bataclan, where 18 were already dead.


Luckily I was with Valerie, and luckily Valerie was with her love Kim. Luckily Kim is in the band for the show and he took us backstage. We sat on couches among unmasked actors who’d changed into their modern Parisian street clothes. We waited, sent messages, I held my breath. There was news feed and a window down the hall. So strange to look out the window and see the world moving. A man eating take out at a cafe across the street, cars driving by, a couple with a map. The Metro was closed, police were about to storm the Bataclan, there were shooters on scooters in the area. They believed the killing was done around 1am and taxis started running. We chose to stay put and Kim made us a bed in one of the dressing rooms upstairs. We slept curled up under a makeup table till morning, when we took a cab to their place and slept again.

I walked home in the afternoon and saw that Paris was still Paris, is still Paris, just quieter. Parisians and tourists alike were shopping, eating and looking at art. I saw a man selling selfie sticks outside the Louvre, and others using them. Mind you, there was only one of him on this day, and only two selling Eiffel tower key chains. Still Paris, just quieter. Many Parisians were home in their beds, grieving and resting. A lot of people were shopping, fancy furniture galleries were busier than usual, Starbucks was packed. The lingerie shop was by far the busiest and that’s the shop I couldn’t resist either. I didn’t buy anything, but I did go in. Were we all looking for something to hold onto? Comfort? A connection to our vitality, mortality, sexuality? Existence? I returned to my famously quiet neighborhood, thoroughly confused and cried.

Luckily, I received an invitation to a warm bluesy flat in the North of Paris for dancing with a real piano that very night. I went, covered in roses. I danced and I sang for real people. I sang in English and French and that felt wonderful. I count myself lucky in every direction. Luckily, I know there is strong medicine in confusion, an essential ingredient for transformation. I hope to find a direction in which I can be of service in this strange time. I open to the journey I am on and not the journey that I think I’m on. Thanks for being with me.  


  1. Susan Tuzzolino

    Hello Dear Greta,
    Somewhere a voice is calling
    And people are falling in love
    With this life we live;
    Though much destruction
    Mucks it up we’ll slide
    Into the light of life unknown
    And gather our deepest wishes
    Placing our hands together
    With applause and laughter
    While salty tears slip down
    To mouths full of unspoken dreams.
    Let me speak and say Thank You
    For your Being brings so much
    Alive and Well with Stories to Tell.
    Olympia misses you and it’s so nice
    To see you wherever you are; there is wonder.

  2. LinSun

    Peace, Jai, and Blessings sweet Sol Sistar! We were supposed to meet! I met you at the store yesterday (from NC) and I am inspired by you. Keep shining and sharing your Jai! I look forward to building with you and creating with each breath.

    School of Jai

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